Neuro-linguistic Programming

(Extracts from Life Coach Directory)

People communicate feelings in different ways. Most of these feelings are communicated unconsciously, be it through tone, volume, pace, facial expressions, body language and words.

NLP practitioners are trained to recognise these subtle, unconscious clues so that they can understand how their client is feeling. A practitioner can identify the self-imposed restrictions the clients have put on themselves through unveiling the client’s mental map and working with them to move forward.

The three most common types of limiting beliefs/self-imposed restrictions include:

  • Hopelessness
  • Worthlessness
  • Helplessness

It’s easy for people to set themselves up for failure if they are constantly thinking negative thoughts. Comments such as, “I’m not good enough” or “other people are better than me” can limit an experience and the chance of accomplishment.

It is common for an NLP practitioner to address these negative beliefs by asking a series of questions such as:

  • Why do you believe you do not deserve happiness or success?
  • Why can’t you succeed?
  • What is preventing you from fulfilling your dreams?

The answers can help to reveal the feelings that are causing the limiting beliefs. An NLP coach will then begin to explore and challenge the limitations with the hope of changing the client’s negative thought pattern.

What to expect?

While the methods used by professionals will all differ, the standard NLP coaching session will follow the same, basic pattern. Initially, the practitioner will ask what you want to change and the problems you want to overcome. They will pay close attention to what you’re saying and how you say it, tailoring the session to your responses.

The NLP coach will then work through a range of exercises with you in order to piece together your “life map”. They will begin to introduce new thought processes in order to help you widen your boundaries.

It is common for the practitioner to give you a number of exercises to practice at home. This will help you get accustomed to the techniques learnt in the NLP coaching session. While the main neurological changes will have occurred during the session, they may take time to settle in. It is normal for the changes to progress over time, as you get back into your daily routine.

They may ask you to record how you felt before, during and after sessions. This is so you and the NLP practitioner can look back on the results. You will also make note of any changes you have noticed since starting the sessions and record any at-home exercises you have completed. When you are ready, both you and the practitioner will decide on the next stage of your life and what change to begin.

It is thought that NLP is such a popular technique because it focuses on the future. It works to explore future possibilities and solutions, rather than encouraging you to dig up past memories or experiences. NLP coaching is about adding opportunities and widening perceptions, rather than dwelling on the negatives.

How can NLP help?

Neuro-linguistic programming is often regarded as “a tool-kit for the mind”, and because of this, NLP is used to improve all areas of a person’s life. It is known to be particularly effective for improving the following situations:

Anxiety and stress

NLP coaching can be an effective method for fighting feelings of stress and anxiety because it identifies the thought patterns that may be causing the pressure. As soon as these unconscious thought patterns are recognised, they can be challenged.

Health and well-being

One of the most important ideas underpinning NLP is that the mind and body are closely connected. When exercising, for example, people will experience positive mental and physical energy. By improving the way we approach and think about the world, we can improve the health and well-being of our bodies.

Fears and phobias

NLP is well-known for its effectiveness in helping people cope with fears and phobias. Like with anxiety and stress, NLP can reveal the thought process behind the often ‘irrational’ fear. NLP can help to change how a person thinks and feels about what was causing them fear, so that they are no longer afraid.

Relationships

Relationships are based on communication, and problems often arise when people are not communicating or expressing how they really feel. NLP can help a person become more aware of how they communicate. Understanding this can help people accept that others may have different views: one opinion is not wrong or right. With NLP coaching, practitioners hope that by developing empathy skills, a person will find it easier to build strong and long-lasting relationships.

Confidence

It is common for people to see an NLP practitioner for relief from their own fears and limitations. The techniques used can help the person break the old habits and beliefs and gain new opportunities. NLP is effective in boosting an individual’s confidence by teaching them how to make decisions based on their dreams, rather than fear. NLP is an excellent tool for understanding people and their ways of communication. In terms of business, learning these tips from an NLP coach will help a person improve how they communicate, enhancing their ability to empathise and negotiate with colleagues, employees and managers.

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